How it feels to postpone your wedding day

February 17, 2021

How it feels to postpone your wedding day

Bethany and Greig were under three weeks away from their dream wedding day at Seamill Hydro when they took the heartbreaking decision to postpone.

The couple were down to planning the last-minute details but as the pandemic got closer to home they knew delaying was the best option.

Here, they tell us just how it feels to postpone your wedding.

The proposal

Bethany and Greig were enjoying the “holiday of a lifetime” in Florida when Greig popped the question in front of the Disney castle.

“It was amazing!” smiles Bethany. “One of the staff saw him propose and they gave us ‘Happily Ever After’ badges which was such a nice touch.

“As soon as other staff members saw this they made sure we got Mickey Mouse ice creams and took pictures for us to remember the moment by!”

The plan

Back home in Scotland they started the search for their perfect venue and, with both coming from big families, knew their wedding would be big.

They considered a few but as soon as they looked round Seamill Hydro they knew they’d found the place.

The wedding was all planned for April 4 2020 and at the start of the year they forged ahead with final details meetings while their suppliers still felt optimistic about the situation.

Then in mid-March it all changed. “We were stuck between continuing wedding planning and postponing and struggled to come to a decision, hoping things would miraculously improve,” explains Bethany.

“After speaking to our families, we knew it was time to decide and we both felt we would regret not postponing as we were so close to the day we had dreamed of and wanted to celebrate with our families.

“After days of stress, tears and emails back and forth to all of our suppliers, we finally decided we had to postpone.”

On March 17 the couple made the difficult decision to hold off to a December date and relief soon set in.

Their choice was made so much easier by the support they received from their “amazing” suppliers.

“After postponing we didn’t feel the need to sort any more of the last details until closer to December and we were able to take the pressure off for a while,” says Bethany.

At the time they thought things would be a lot more normal in December than they turned out to be and allowed themselves until mid-August to gauge how things would be.

“The amazing wedding team at Seamill Hydro got in touch before this to ask if we wanted to reserve another wedding date to ensure we got the day we had planned and saved for since getting engaged,” remembers Bethany.

By then wedding planning was becoming more stressful than it should be and the worry over the December date eventually push the couple to make the decision to postpone again, this time until March 2022.

“Greig and I both wanted to enjoy the run up to the wedding and with the ever-changing restrictions and limited guidance on weddings, this was difficult,” Bethany says.

Keeping the dream

As difficult as the decision to postpone, not once but twice, Bethany and Greig knew it was the right choice for them, instead of forging ahead with a micro-wedding.

“As we had been so close to our original wedding date when we first had to postpone, we had already planned the wedding day we had dreamed of,” says Bethany.

“We felt we didn’t want to change any of the plans that we had put so much time, effort and thought into.

“We also didn’t want to go ahead with the wedding with limited or no guests as we wanted our friends and family there to celebrate with us.”

It may have been the right decision but it doesn’t mean it was easy.

“The worst moment, both times, was the realisation that we had to postpone and let go of the dates after being so close to the first date and so ready for the second,” Bethany says.

“Not being able to see any of our family and friends was also difficult but they were all so supportive and celebrated our first date by raising a glass with us online.”